Subj:    THE SPECIAL ED ADVOCATE, VOL. II, NO. 4 (January 27, 1999)
Date:    1/27/99 4:40:23 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: (Pam & Pete Wright)

The Special Ed Advocate

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January 27, 1999 Vol. II, No. 4

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1. NEW TACTICS & STRATEGY ARTICLE: The “Letter to a Stranger”

2. EDITOR’S CHOICE: “How to Argue and Win Every Time;” LINKS to
“Teaching the Tiger;” and “THINK FAST! The ADD Experience”

3. NEWS FLASH! Update on FINAL Special Education Regulations

4. Subscription Information

5. Contact Information


1. NEW TACTICS & STRATEGY ARTICLE: The “Letter to a Stranger”

When parents write letters to the school, their letters will be read by
strangers. Many decisions about your child's special education are made
by strangers.

Will a Stranger see you as an angry, negative complainer? Or will a
Stranger decide that you are a rational, thoughtful parent who has valid

Your letter gives you a chance to sell the Stranger on the justice of
your case. The Stranger doesn’t know you, your child, or your situation.
When you write letters, keep the Stranger in your mind’s eye. Who is the
Stranger? What does he look like? How does he think? Describe your
problem and tell the Stranger what needs to be done to make things

We have posted the original "Letter to the Stranger," written by Janie
Bowman and Peter Wright and posted on the CompuServe ADD Forum. Later,
this article and other information from the ADD Forum became part of a
permanent Smithsonian Exhibit about online culture and communities.

This article includes letters from an actual case. The names were
changed to protect the family's privacy. To read the famous “Letter to a
Stranger” go to -

To read our companion article about Letter Writing, go to –




"How to Argue and Win Every Time" is NOT about arguing. Gerry Spence
will teach you how to present your dispute or problem, using story
telling and visual imagery. Pete says, “If you have to go to an
important meeting and your emotions are running high, read Chapters 8
and 9 before you do anything."

“How to Argue” is one of Pete's favorite books: “Gerry Spence is the
best trial lawyer in America today. He is a student of human behavior -
how to convince and persuade others to see things from your

“After you read this book, you’ll understand what controls the outcome
of litigation and why Gerry Spence predicted the outcome of the Simpson

Click for information about “How to Argue and Win Every Time.”

For more books about how to negotiate and persuade, go to the Advocate’s


In the last issue of The Special Ed Advocate, we gave 5 STARS to
“Teaching the Tiger: A Handbook for Individuals Involved in the
Education of Students With Attention Deficit Disorders, Tourette
Syndrome or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.”

Several people wrote to advise that they were unable to access the link
so here it is -

Click for information about “Teaching the Tiger.”


As members of the ADD Forum, Pete and Pam Wright contributed chapters to
the best-selling book THINK FAST! Janie Bowman (who co-authored the
“Letter to the Stranger”) edited THINK FAST!

THINK FAST! is available in The Advocate's Library -


3. NEWS FLASH! Update on the Final Special Education Regs

January 25, 1999. The Department of Education announced plans to publish
the Final Special Education Regulations by February 26, 1999.

“Final wording of the regulations is being negotiated by the U.S.
Department of Education and the Office of Management and Budget (OMB).
The Department has denied the rumor that it intended to issue separate
discipline regulations.”

“The head IDEA staff person for the U.S. Senate has urged the Department
to issue separate regs for all of the policy letters incorporated into
the proposed regs.”

“Significant changes are expected in the Final Regs.”

(From Press Release issued by the Council for Exceptional Children,
January 24, 1999)


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