NLD In Common Letter from an NLD Adult
Subject: Should I Tell My Child She/he Has NLD?
As an adult with NVLD, I am so grateful that my parents decided to tell me and wanted me to be as informed as possible. They never wanted me to use it as a crutch, but they wanted me to know why I struggled with certain things. I am really grateful that I know and then I could learn to love myself. I used to think that I needed to overcome my NLD, but went to a friend who is a therapist last year and she said something that I am really happy about. She told me that I needed to love my NLD. I needed to love that part of me and not be ashamed about it. Since then I have been a lot happier. My husband noticed when I joined this group that I started talking about NLD again and he said you know it has been months since you have mentioned that. That made me happy. I think it is important to learn what you can but also to just live life and be happy. I did so much research when I was in high school and college. I learned a lot about how to cope. I also started support groups. It was right for me at that time in my life.
Now I that I know what I know I am able to live my life and be happy. Yes I am different from my friends, co-workers, boss, and family, but I can live with that. Labels are not important. I have found that I am able to do so many things that I never thought I would be able to do. Everyone learns differently. Everyone has strengths and deficits. There is not a person on this earth who doesn't have challenges. They make us strong. I am so grateful that I have NLD. That is saying a lot about the progress that I have made. I used to resent it so much when I was in high school. I wished that if I had to have a disability that at least it would be a visible one. Because I look normal and I have a very high verbal IQ people always thought I was lazy and just wasn't working hard enough. Now I know that it doesn't matter what others think of me. What matters is what I think of myself and that God loves me and made me this way for a reason.
I hope that your daughter will learn this. I am grateful for parents that taught me these things and never gave up on me. You sound a lot like my parents.
God Bless you and Keep you,
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