Nonverbal message of acceptance: nonintervention & listening
Words that invite the child to share:
How about that.
Is that so!
Tell me more.
I'd like to hear about it.
I'd be interested in your point of view.
Would you like to talk about it?
Let's discuss it.
This seems like something important to you.
Remember to keep the door open with active listening. Don't open the door only to adjust or change their thoughts.
There are times when children don't
want to share their feelings and need to live with them for a while.
DO NOT PUSH THEM TO TALK.
Do not invite them to talk when you don't have the time to truelly listen.
....there is a time to back
off...even though it does not seem to you that the particular problem has been solved....
active listening only starts children on the first step of problem solving - getting the feelings out and the problem defined.
Frequently, the children themselves take it from there
(Parent Effectiveness Training, by Dr. Thomas Gordon,